Thoughts from Rev. Scott Rudolph
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My seven-year-old son, Simon, woke up early in the morning before everyone else in the house. He was playing in the living room when Alex came downstairs and started making coffee. Simon and Alex had met once before during a weekend I had the joy of marrying Alex and his wife, but I do not think Simon really remembered him. I overheard Alex giving a valiant effort to get to know Simon, but Simon was feeling shy and uncertain since Mom and Dad were not in the room yet. The conversation could find a foothold. Alex is a huge baseball fan and had a baseball news show on the television as a part of his morning routine. He saw Simon watching it andasked, “Do you like baseball?” A home run of a question...
Simon excitedly told Alex all about the baseball team he played on, about the game the day before, and about how last season he was on the Blue Jays and how now he was on the Cubs. Then Simon brought out his baseball hats to show off. Alex was listening with great interest and asking lots of questions, enjoying hearing this new fan’s perspective on the game. To Simon’s amazement, Alex had a large baseball hat collection of his own hanging on a wall. Alex began explaining some of the game's finer points and Simon listened intently. By the time I came out and joined the conversation, a bond based on baseball had formed.
As Unitarian Universalists, we talk a lot about our diversity and differences. “We need not think alike to love alike,” we say. We come together believing many different things theologically and from many paths in life. We appreciate that we have a religious freedom that allows each to respond to the holy in the way it speaks to them. There is a great deal to learn and be curious about in our diversity.
AND, we also have a lot in common. Like Simon and Alex, these places might not be apparent at first. They may take conversation and courage to find. Once we locate them, the ways our lives, beliefs, and values overlap can offer us the opportunity to connect with each other. Commonalities create a bridge to relate with people. Finding similarities enables us to form relationships with nearly anyone. Overlap might not be obvious. It might be elusive. You might think it is impossible to find something in common with some people. But even someone you believe is your opposite in every way is, at the very least, a fellow human being on our planet hoping for a positive experience of this odd thing called life. We all are here together (wherever “here” is). That is our great similarity. At the very least, if we recognize this commonality we might find some new teammates.
There are a lot of new people at the Fellowship. Coffee hour is pretty crowded. It can be easy to become overwhelmed. So we are being intentional about trying to find new ways to facilitate connections and will continue to do so. The One-to-One conversations hosted by the Healthy Congregations Team were a giant success, with over 60 people participating. We plan to do it again. Neighborhood groups are also being started. And there are always ongoing activities and offerings to take part in. Teams and committees are another way to get involved. Justice events are unfolding. If you'd like help finding a place to plug in, our congregational life facilitator, Chela Sloper, is just a phone call away.
Looking to make some connections at UUFCO? Guess what? So is everyone else. There is someone at the Fellowship you have never spoken to who shares some overlap of life with you. I know it. We just have to find it. Alex and Simon were able to find an unlikely connection and create a bond over a love of baseball. But don’t expect everything to match up. And that’s okay, too. It was clear at the end of the trip that Alex will remain a diehard Cardinals fan, while Simon remains adamant that the Cubs are the best baseball team in the world. There is connection to be found in our similarities and our differences. Let’s find some together. Play ball!
In A Search for Meaning, Susan G. LaMar writes about the importance of Unitarian Universalist ordination and installation. Ordination is the process by which a congregation formally bestows a person with the office of minister. Installation is the process of a minister formally entering intorelationship with a congregation. I am switching the word ordination in the following passage with installation, as I feel the sentiments apply to both:
What is important is that through installation, something changes, both within the installed and within the community. A new and different relationship is acknowledged,recognized, and committed to... It is a privileged moment of life for both the installedand the congregation – something special is occurring at the initiative of the gatheredcommunity. It follows a tradition, is connected to the congregation’s understanding of “church,” both immediately and historically. Can it be seen, tasted, smelled, touched,or heard? No, except to the extent that actions evoking those senses are part of the liturgy. But the change itself is invisible, ineffable, silent. The elements of the rite are outward signs of an inward or spiritual grace – a sacrament. These are not words often uttered in Unitarian Universalist churches, but they capture what happens in an installation.
A sacrament is a rite in which the holy and sacred are present and uniquely active. We did create a sacramental act on March 10 when I was installed as the minister of UUFCO. There was great significance and spiritual depth to the service. As Unitarian Universalists, there was sacredness in the act of installation. We believe that the most profound, effective, and God-filled way to be religious is be together freely in the spirit of love, to walk side by side, and to use our reason, collective wisdom, and principles guide us. In our tradition, no outside body appoints a minister. That is the right and responsibility of each congregation. Calling a minister is one of the richest and most foundational ways that we exercise our form of church.
People have asked me what my favorite moment during the service was. It is hard to say. There was no one moment. There were many that took my breath away, that touched my heart, and that kindled the fire inside. But among all the moments, one that stands out among the rest is looking out at the people gathered as the words for the Act of Installation were being read and hearing the congregation say, “We do hereby install you, the Reverend Scott Rudolph, as the minister of the Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Central Oregon.”
You did that. A group of people seeking justice, using compassion, hoping to heal and grow, wanting to strike chords of joy in life believed in and affirmed my ministry. You have installed me as your minister. I am deeply honored, humbled, and charged. It is my hope that we all grow together, as individuals and as a community – that we will be blessings to one another and to the world around us. I am deeply grateful to this congregation. Thank you. Now... what’s next?
The authors of Interdependence: Renewing Congregational Polity write, “Congregational polity is itself a shared understanding, agreement, and commitment — in a word, a covenant — among various congregations; it presupposes their being in community and it furthers and sustains the actuality of that community... it is an expression of our spiritual vision.”
Here in Central Oregon, there are not too many other Unitarian Universalist churches around. (Okay... there aren’t any other ones around.) So here is your wonky structural lesson of Unitarian Universalist organization for the month. We are a part of the Pacific Northwest District (PNWD – www.pnwduua.org). The PNWD is a voluntary grouping of 58 UU member congregations in Alaska, Western Idaho, Oregon, and Washington. The PNWD is a part of the Pacific Western Region PWR — www.uua.org/pacific-western.org, one of five regional bodies of the Unitarian Universalist Association (UUA – www.uua.org). The UUA is the national body of over 1,000 UU member congregations. Congregations vote for the leaders of the UUA, who oversee the central staff and resources. The UUA supports congregations in their work by training ministers, publishing books and the UU World magazine, providing religious education.
We hope to make good on the promise that lies in our polity when we come together with other UUs. Again, from Interdependence, “The benefits of congregational polity for a single church cannot be fully enjoyed in isolation, for true congregational polity can thrive only as part of the community of autonomous congregations.”
AND SO... the Pacific Western Region is having is Annual Assembly, and we hope to get as many UUFCO members there as possible. There is so much to experience and learn that people could bring back into the life of this congregation. Scholarships are available to all members for half or full registration fees depending on need. WE HOPE YOU ATTEND! We will be organizing carpool and possible room shares at UUFCO as well. Contact Chela Sloper, our Congregational Life Facilitator, with questions or to request a scholarship at firstname.lastname@example.org.
About the assembly:
Stories of Hope, Courage, Resistance, and Resilience
April 27-29, 2018 — Lloyd Center DoubleTree in Portland, OR. https://www.uua.org/pacific-western/regional-assembly
- The opportunity to worship, workshop, live, love, and laugh with about 700 other Unitarian Universalists from across the region! If you have never had this experience, it is amazing.
- Great workshops during the day on many topics, including leadership development, worship, youth programs, multiculturalism, and congregational stories of hope.
- The keynote speaker on Saturday, April 28, will be U.S. Rep. Pramila Jayapal, the first Indian-American woman to be elected to the U.S. Congress.
- Rev. Susan Frederick-Gray, the newly elected president of the Unitarian Universalist Association, will speak to us to share her emerging vision for the future of the UUA and our wider movement.
- The whole family can enjoy. Infants through age 4 will have skilled childcare available on-site on Friday evening, all day Saturday, and Sunday morning, kids aged 5-14 can join in the fun at UU Kids Day Camp, and high school youth have a track of their own.
- Gathering with other UUs is a great way to be inspired and experience what we feel like as a wider faith. Folks who attend will bring back excitement and new ideas. Imagine how having our good folks there might help make UUFCO a more vibrant place. Whether it is on Sunday morning here in Bend or for a weekend in Portland, Oregon, it is good when we come together!
· We hope you will consider attending.
“One isn't necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can't be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest.”
~ Maya Angelou
To be generous takes courage. And certainly courage is involved in stewardship season here at the Fellowship. At this time of year, we look at the financial realities of our dreams for the future. It is exciting to consider what this community means to us and envision what the new year might bring. All that we are is the product of what we have been. And so we meditate on what will be required of us to bring our vision to fruition — both with our combined efforts and our combined financial pledges to support our Fellowship.
This work takes courage. Anytime we ask honest questions, it takes courage to hear — and respond to — honest answers. Then there is the courage it takes to even have conversations about money. Such conversations can bring up anxieties or patterns, hidden and seen, around our past experiences with giving — feelings of scarcity, feelings associated with being a steward of a church. Perhaps we carry the baggage of previous church life in which financial matters were handled poorly. And finally, there is the courage it takes to give bravely — to trust in a church and what it stands for, to trust that your hard-earned money will become something of beauty.
Giving takes courage. Should you need to bolster your courage, I invite you to look around our community. Look at the young children who are learning to be discerning and loving young people in our Religious Exploration program. Witness the many faith development groups and programs that offer our members and friends a place to explore, share, and grow in our understanding of faith and possibility. Be with our gathered community on Sunday morning as we create an embodied spirit of love. Know that our Fellowship champions the causes of people in need, people who are fighting systems of oppression. Hear the laughter and songs in the air. See the full range of generations gathered around common values like a fire that warms us, directs us, and illuminates our way. Know that our Fellowship staff is dedicated and working hard for this community.
This is all very real. This is a sacred place where the holy is present to play and heal. We have great reason to have faith in, and be faithful to, this church because of the ideals we hold and because of our people. May this faith enable us to find courage as we support our Unitarian Universalist church .
If you are proud of this church, become its advocate.
If you are concerned for its future, share its message.
If its values resonate deep within you, give it a measure of your devotion.
This church cannot survive without your faith, your confidence,
your enthusiasm, your generosity.
Its destiny, the larger hope, rests in your hands.
~ Michael A. Schuler
Hello! You there, in the future! It’s me, Scott, from the past! It will be 2018 when you read this! As I am writing, it is only December 20. It is not even Christmas yet here in the past. Oh, the things we all will have experienced by the time you read this! Your holiday season will be done, and you will have brought in the new year. I hope you had a lovely time! Or maybe it was terrible. And that is okay, too... Sometimes it happens like that.
Our theme for January is intention — a likely theme for the new year as we all reflect upon what we have been doing and what we may want to be doing differently. It is one of the most profound ideas for those who seek a path of spiritual living and growth. The idea of living intentionally is supported by understanding where we are in our lives and how we are showing up in any given moment (remembering that these moments are the actual minutes and moments of our lives). In beginning this new year, let us take a moment to be intentional about how we move forward into 2018. Here is a simple (yet not so simple) fill-in-the-blank quiz. Please take it when you get a moment in the hopes it may help you live with intention.
I would like to let go of ________________________________.
To let go of________________________________, I will need to ________________________________.
And that may not be easy. To make that happen, I will need to ________________________________.
Letting go of this scares me a little because ________________________________.
But I want to let it go, and I believe it would be worth it because ________________________________.
The first step in doing this is ________________________________.
So, I will begin doing this first step on this date at this time ________________________________ .
Something that would bring release and rejuvenation to my life would be ________________________________.
I currently do not do this because ________________________________.
It would be possible to bring this into my life if I ________________________________.
To do that, I will need to________________________________ .
And that will require that I ________________________________.
I want to do this, and I believe it would be worth it because ________________________________.
The first step in doing this is ________________________________ .
So, I will begin doing this first step on this date at this time ________________________________.
Something I would like to intentionally bring into my life or something I would like to be intentional about doing is ________________________________.
To do this, I will need to ________________________________.
And that may not be easy. To make that happen, I will need to ________________________________.
Doing this scares me a little because ________________________________.
But I want to and I believe it would be worth it because ________________________________ .
The first step in doing this is________________________________ .
So, I will begin doing this first step on this date at this time ________________________________.
New years are full of promise. I wish to you all the courage and grace to move forward into those dreams.
With Love, Rev. Scott
December is here. A month of holidays! Hanukah, Christmas, Solstice, Kwanzaa, Boxing Day, and Festivus, all leading into the New Year. Of these, Christmas is the one that is the most culturally omnipresent this time of year. People celebrate Christmas in many different ways, ranging from completely secular to deeply spiritual. In the Christian tradition, Christmas observes the birth of Jesus. Now, there are far more ways of thinking about who Jesus was than there are holidays in December. Pondering all the different ways that people consider Jesus reminds me of an experience I had long ago. This different vision of Jesus may offer some insight into how to stay calm in this hectic holiday season.
I was at church camp as an eighth-grader at Montreat in the Black Mountains of North Carolina. Church camp was a special and holy place for me growing up. It was a hard place as well, as I struggled with the Christian theology, self-expression, and self-acceptance. One night the youth minister led us on a guided meditation. He asked us to close our eyes and get comfortable.
In a very slow and deliberate way, we were asked to picture ourselves somewhere, anywhere. What do you see when you look around you? What are you doing? After a time, we were invited to imagine that Jesus arrives in this world in which we have found ourselves. What does he look like? What does he say? What does he do? What does it feel like?
I wanted my encounter with Jesus to be lofty and deep, so I tried to have Jesus say important things. I tried to craft some story or experience that would resonate for years to come. I tried to force it, and it didn’t work. I wanted the experience to be something specific, so there was no room for it to “just be.”
I do remember what Roger imagined, though. Roger was an older kid I looked up to in the youth group. He was kind, inclusive, honest, quiet, and quick to laugh his great chuckling laugh. He also played some mean bongo drums. I was always impressed by his ability to simply be himself — to be Roger. When it was Roger’s turn to share, he said he imagined himself lying in a big field on his back with his hands behind his head. The sun was shining brightly. The grass was tall. There was a soft breeze. Then Jesus walked up and lay down next to him with his hands behind his head and his legs outstretched. Jesus didn’t say anything. They just hung out together quietly enjoying the surroundings. He said it was really peaceful. And that Jesus was just really full of “good vibes.” To this day, that remains one of the most profound images of Jesus I’ve ever encountered — stables, mangers, and crosses included.
Looking back, I have no idea what I imagined that evening, and that is because I was too busy trying to force it.
Perhaps this holiday season I will try less to create the perfect holiday experience and try more to just let it be what it is. This will be our family’s first Christmas here, so the pressure is on! But it rarely works for me when I try to force something good. It almost always works better when I stop trying to control things and allow a little more space for life to unfold as it will. There are plenty of seasonal and self-imposed expectations this time of year. My hope for all of us is that we can find that sweet balance of engaging the best of what this season offers and going with the flow enough that we enjoy it all as well. No matter how you are celebrating this holiday season, may it be a wonderful time of hope, wonder, and love.
Last year, my family went to New York City for a few days. We saw the Statue of Liberty, ate breakfast in a New York diner and lunch in Chinatown, enjoyed a picnic in Central Park, walked through Times Square, had a daily intake of New York pizza, and, of course, rode the subway — which, if you ask our kids, was the highlight of the trip.
For me, a highlight of our trip was worshiping with the Unitarian Church of All Souls one Sunday morning. It is one of our most historically significant congregations, both for its people and its actions. For me, visiting that church was a pilgrimage of sorts. Founded in 1819, All Souls was the first Unitarian congregation organized in New York.
At that time, William Ellery Channing, now known as the father of American Unitarianism, was the minister of the Federal Street Church in Boston. In 1819, Channing delivered a sermon in Baltimore titled, “Unitarian Christianity.” With this address, he codified a way of being Christian that rejected the trinitarian structure of God and instead proclaimed the unity of God. He also declared the absolute necessity of using reason to interpret biblical scripture. Channing arrived in New York with his message boiling over. His sister, Lucy Channing Russell, gathered people into her home in Manhattan to listen to the ideas of her brother. And a church was born. It is because these people before us lived and spread their values that we gather together today as a religious community in the way we do. Our congregations look and feel very different today.
All Souls Unitarian Church is in the middle of Manhattan, a few blocks east of Central Park. The church is old and formal. The organ fills the cavernous space, and statues and plaques adorn the halls with lofty names from our history. In that New York church, my 5-year-old daughter reached out to the back of the pew in front of us and pulled out the hymnal. She said with amazement, “They have the same one here that we do at our church!” The chalice was lit. We sang familiar hymns. We gathered around shared values. It was the children’s first experience of a UU congregation that wasn’t their home church.
This summer, when the kids came to UUFCO for the first time, my daughter again noticed that we have the very same hymnals we used in Pittsburgh! Each Unitarian Universalist congregation is a unique expression of its history, its current actions, and its dreams for the future. And every congregation is also connected to our larger tradition.
Getting to know this congregation over the past three months has been an absolute joy. It is so exciting to be here as we continue to create the life of this fellowship together.
Ever wonder when or why you might reach out to your minister? You are probably not alone. Many years ago a Unitarian Universalist minister named Peter Lee Scott wrote a column called "When to Call the Minister." The column has been passed along and adapted many times over for many years. The following list should be read with the lens that as a minister, I am not a “fixer,” but I am a source of care and perspective. Here’s my take on it:
- When you don’t know me but would like to or you would like to know me better.
- When you’re planning to be married.
- When you are going through marital difficulties, separation, or divorce.
- When you are having difficulties in health.
- When you have given birth to a child or adopted. Or wish to have a dedication ceremony.
- When something in your life is going wonderfully and you would like to share that with someone.
- When you have problems or concerns you’d like to discuss — problems with your job, children, partner, health, wellbeing, or anything else where a listening ear might be help. I do not do ongoing counseling or therapy but can usually provide referrals when it is needed.
- When someone close to you has died, is suicidal, or is critically ill.
- When you’d like to plan or make advance plans for a funeral or memorial service.
- When you are pregnant and glad you are or you’re pregnant but wish you weren’t.
- When you want to know more about Unitarian Universalism or have a friend who is curious.
- When you’re considering joining the church, but you still have some questions.
- When you have decided you would like to join the church.
- When you’d like to get involved in church but are not sure how.
- When you would like to offer your time, talent, or treasure to our fellowship.
- When you’re upset with me or have concerns and would like to talk about it. Or if you’re appreciative and would like to share.
- When you need help, but you’re not sure who to call.
- When you have questions you don’t know what to do with.
- When you’d like to talk about religion, theology, or spirituality.
This list is, of course, incomplete. There are many other reasons that you might be in touch. But you get the idea. The point is – be in touch. I like to remind people to share good news as well as trials. Joy loves company just as much as misery. In time, I plan to establish a Pastoral Care Team here to expand how we care for one another. And there are always the good people next to you in church, friends established or new, to whom you can reach out.
We are a caring community. We are a place where we hold, nurture, and lift one another up. To do so, we must be willing to offer help and ask for it as well. Talk to you soon.
Occasionally in life there are times when we find ourselves overwhelmed at being the recipients of great kindness and generosity. Words do little to capture those feelings of deep gratitude swirling inside. At times such as these, I find that there is little to do but offer a heartfelt and sincere “thank you.” (But I am a minister, so I will continue on with more words when a few might have sufficed.)
The congregation of UUFCO has invited Rebecca, Simon, Tessa Jane, and me into this community with an abundance of warmth, enthusiasm, and thoughtfulness. We have been greeted with friendly smiles and open hearts. People have been generous with hugs and handshakes. We received a welcome basket with a museum membership to learn, stuffed otters to snuggle, books on Bend to read, eclipse glasses to view celestial events, and water bottles to hydrate. In short, we have been made to feel welcome, and there is no greater feeling when arriving in a new place and a new home. So “thank you.” A feeling of intense gratitude swirls inside of me. Kindness transforms the recipient (as well as the giver). Please know that we have been forever changed by the kindness we have been shown upon arriving at UUFCO.
Part of my beginning here (the largest and most important part) is getting to know you. There is no substitute for sitting down for a conversation. During September, I will be hosting some informal gatherings here at the fellowship called Histories and Hopes. I’ll meet with groups of eight people or so to answer any questions, to talk about the life of the church, to hear your stories, and to understand your hopes for the future of this congregation. There will be sign up sheets on the kiosk offering different times and dates. Or you can email the office (mailto:email@example.com) and sign up that way. If a substantial group self-forms around a particular time and date not listed, let me know and we will try to make it work.
HISTORIES & HOPES—Location, dates, and times
Bend - UUFCO: Wednesday, September 6 at 2 p.m.
Bend - Jackson’s Corner (Eastside): Thursday, September 7 at 10 a.m.
Bend – UUFCO: Wednesday, September 13 at 6 p.m.
Bend - Deschutes Brewery: Tuesday, September 19 at 7 p.m.
Sisters – TBD with group
Redmond – TBD with group
Here we go!
With Gratitude and Excitement, Scott